When conversations go blank...

When the conversation goes silent. Just stand there, cool and relaxed. I never had a girl walk off, they always re-opened me. Great IOI.

So hang in a set, even if you don't know what to say. Just be cool. Break eye contact. Wait for her to re-open you. It usually happens right at the point where it begins to feel so uncomfortable that you want to eject.

MYSTERY on Last Minute Resistance

There are five ways to overcome LMR, but the general principle is not to barrel through it with eternal persistence...it's to help her get rid of the feeling so that she doesn't experience it in the first place.

(1) Seven hours. If you wait seven hours before trying to full monty her, you will dramatically reduce LMR.

(2) "You have highjacked my brain." Convince her of this and you capitulate to the needs of her LMR: you two are pair-bonded...you won't just fuck her and leave. Start your "highjacked brain" campaign ten minutes into the sarge:

"Do you want to hear the weirdest thing? I don’t know you from a hole in the wall, I really feel this connection with you. Its so weird. Say that when you went away, I actually missed you."

(3) The Freeze Out. This is Mystery's classic LMR tactic. If a girl stops you at a certain point as you are moving toward sex, and it is not simply token resistence, you STOP. Completely. Stop. Say, "I understand." And go do something else. It is imperative not to come off as pouting. Rather, you're just communicating, "If you don't want to do this, that's cool." But really, this is a punishment for her since she is aroused. You're saying, you don't get the reward of me arousing you unless you're willing to take this all the way. Anyway, stop, go do something else, then return, maybe touch her leg, and things will resume. Then tell her to do the thing she wouldn't do before. Continue as usual.

(4)"We should stop." This is for token resistence: when a girl comes up with lots of stupid excuses why you shouldn't be hooking up. In those cases you just say, "You're right, we should stop," and keep going.

(5) Riker's 3 Rules: You tell a girl, "Look, I have three values that I live by. One, I always wear a condom. Especially with a girl that I first have sex with. Two, I want this to be fun. I want this to be win-win. I want us to both enjoy it. Three, when we look back at this tomorrow, I want us to look back and be glad that we did it. If everything has happened again, I want us to want to do it again. If we don’t feel these are true, then we shouldn’t do it."

And there you have it...the solution to LMR.

Lessons from Design's vew of HIMSELF

-My biggest error is that I'm not moving through the stages fast enough. It should only take a few minutes before I'm moving her, escalating kino, etc. If I find myself running attract game for ten or fifteen minutes, I am doing something wrong. SARGE FASTER!

-I gotta learn to smile walking around and going into sets. Both Mystery and one of the guys in our group separately said I looked angry or sad or something even though I didn't feel that way and didn't think I was coming off that way. Yuri pointed this out to me as well when we were in Va. Beach together.

SERIOUS INNER GAME - MUST READ

The predominace of mind is no more than a stage in the evolution of conciousness. We need to go on to the next stage now as a matter of urgency; otherwise, we will be destroyed by the mind, which has grown into a monster. I will talk more about this later.

Thinking and conciousness are not synonymous. Thinking is only a small aspect of conciousness. Thought cannot exist without conciousness, but conciousness does not need thought.

Enlightenment means rising above thought, NOT FALLING BACK TO A LEVEL BELOW THOUGHT, THE LEVEL OF AN ANIMAL OR A PLANT. IN ENLIGHTENED STATE, YOU STILL USE YOUR THINKING MIND WHEN NEEDED, BUT IN A MUCH MORE FOCUSED AND EFFECTIVE WAY THAN BEFORE. You use it mostly for practical purposes, but you are free of the involuntary inner dialogue, and there is inner stillness.

When you do use your mind, and particularly when a creative solution is needed, you oscillate every few minutes or so bewteen thought and stillness, bewteen mind and no-mind.

No-mind is conciousness without thought. ONLY IN THAT WAY IS IT POSSIBLE TO THINK CREATIVELY, BECAUSE ONLY IN THAT WAY DOES THOUGHT HAVE ANY REAL POWER. Thought alone, when it is no longer connected with the much vaster realm of conciousness, quickly becomes baren, insane, destructive.

The mind is an esstenially a survival machine, Attack and defense against other minds, gathering, storing, and analyzing information -- this is what its good at, but it is not at all creative.

All true artists (Mozart, etc) whether they know it or not, create from a place of no-mind, from inner stillness. The mind then gives form to the creative impulse or insight. Even the great scientists have reported that their creative breakthroughs came at a time of mental quietude.

THE MAIN, NUMBER ONE REASON WHY PEOPLE THINK THEY NEED TO THINK OR ANALYZE TO SOLVE A PROBLEM, IS NOT BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW HOW TO THINK, BUT BECAUSE THEY DON'T KNOW HOW TO STOP THINKING.

To lay, you JUST need your FEET and WALK UPTO HER!

Your being a moron dude? Why are you making this simple concept so hugely complex. It's not hard to approach a lady anytime anywhere. All it takes is some feet to walk up to her and some words to spit.. That's a little thing I like call game. Having the courage, mmmm I use to be like that man. I'll honestly say I got so worked up and scared to approach a lady. ONce I finally realized how easy it was and I stressed over absolutely nothing. Lots of other things in my life started to open up and seem like opportunities.. Man just stay calm and stop asking questions about it and coming up with excuses not to approach..YOur the only one losing here man...

Reframing Your Fear Of Approaching

You go to a meat-market club, with alcohol, with social proof, with a wing, with indirect material, etc, etc, etc. You take on all these external elements to fight against an internal state of fear. You know the fear is irrational and there is no real threat to your life or health but there it is anyway...like a fear of public speaking...it's a fear of social ridicule.

Now what if we take other people away and it's just you and you come across the girl on a deserted island? Would you still fear anxiety approaching her and declaring your interest? Yes. Because it's ultimately about what she thinks of you...that's what you're really afraid of..."what if she doesn't like me?"

This fear of approaching a girl and confidently declaring your interest is almost universal. The ironic thing is many, many attractive girls out there really respond well to this honest, brave approach...so you can separate yourself from the masses of weaklings out there and really make an impression within seconds just by conquering or reframing this fear.

Definitely worth it and logically you know this to be true. You also know that experience will make this easier so you've got to get on top of this fear and not let it control you and you've got to do this often enough that it eventually becomes tame...insignificant...irrelevant.


*Reframing your Fear*

Ok...here's some ideas that work for me...maybe they'll help you and others who are not yet at the point where they've eliminated this ridiculous damaging belief system.

1. Enjoy the Buzz...convince yourself that you LOVE those funny feelings in your stomach...get ADDICTED to that feeling and seek it out. It makes you feel alive...like taking a roller coaster ride anytime and anywhere you go.

2. Fear moves the Feet...convince yourself that the fear of approaching means that you MUST approach and say something. You're a robot. Turn off your mind. The second you feel fear your feet start moving in the direction of your target. There is no thought between the initial feeling and the movement of your feet. One simply causes the other. Period.

3. She's Self-Conscious...all women are really. Instead of thinking about yourself, think about HER thinking about HERSELF. Think of her internal dialogue being "fuck...this guy is coming over and my hair looks like shit!" "oh my god, I wish I was wearing something nicer" "i hope i don't say something stupid" and then come back into your mind and you're thinking "relax sweetheart...don't be nervous...you look great...I'll forgive any little mistakes you make"

4. Play a suave character...you're james bond, you're brad pitt, you're colin farrell, whatever. You're being filmed. None of this is actually real but you're a damn fine actor...you're the hero, she's the female lead and you're going to improvise a scene with her where the two of you meet for the first time and you charm her pants off.

Hope some of these help you get over that "hump". These are like training wheels...once you get positive feedback enough times, that will be enough to convince you how totally ridiculous this fear is and it will just vanish in a puff of logic.

The ATTITUDE to have

1. Be a man:
a. Forget your looks and her looks (at least for the sake of learning the skills). Your looks have nothing with her considering or not considering you a man.
b. Have zero expectation of any reactions (good or bad) from her to anything you say or do. Do not expect anything (good or bad) at all from girls (because it’s neediness otherwise).
2. Do not wait for anything indicative of her permission to you to touch her – probe yourself.
3. Use dominant kino at a later stage (put your hand on her like she’s your car).
4. When approaching, do not think you gotta be nice and charming like a puppy. Be a man.
5. Questions about sex are doable. Be a man and you’ll pull them off.
6. Be a man and you won’t feel like having to see them home (which equals supplication). I did not see this one home.
7. Grow intuition on doing the right (calibrated to a particular girl) things at the right time AND ACT ON IT (I started kinoing this girl when I got the intuition to).
8. Making them guess your age/Zodiac sign will only work if you re being a man with them.
9. Telling them that you like them is fine IF you are being a man around them. The will like you for that.
10. When kissing them, push and pull. They will want more (although they’ll most defo be silent about it but you’ll still be able to tell).
11. Asking them about the BF is superfluous – it doesn’t create any value, it’s just a waste of effort.

Same Opener Group Prank...muahaha

Did some day game with two guys from the D.C. Lair. Eric K opened these two girls seated at a cafe with the wheelchair opener. I was talking to Uncivil_Warrior and told him, "Watch this. When Eric gets back, I'm going to go reopen those girls with the same opener." Eric returns a few minutes later. I approach (the girls didn't see we were together.)

I open and the girls look at me like, WTF? "What?" I said. "Some guy just asked us the same thing." "Wierd," I said. I kept pressing on with material, but they were just too perplexed and I was about to burst out laughing so I left. I get back to the guys. "Okay UW...your turn." BAM. He goes and opens them a THIRD time with the same opener. At this point, Eric and I are laughing so hard we're in tears.

Now Eric decides he's going to open an adjacent set with the same opener. He does but the girls aren't responsive at all. Next UW goes in. He comes back a minute later: "Dude, Design, if you go over there, I think things could get violent. They were NOT amused." So of course I head over and open them for a third time. Neither of the girls say a word. The brunette just stared me down with one of the most evil looks I've ever seen. Finally after about twenty seconds of silence she said, "I think this qualifies as public nuisance." That was my cue. I ejected. Then again, perhaps that was an IOI. :)

Kiss close to getting laid

When I kiss close I always start by sniffing in the hair. 'Styles evolution kiss close' is not lying when claiming this is a strong turn on.

From the hair, I usually move down to put small kisses on the neck then back to the hair then small kisses on the side of the face, the chin, the mouth..

Try it! Really puts girls on fire!

(Lol.. I use a very similar routine when eating pussy!)