Tuesday, March 01, 2005

ASSUMING RAPPORT: How we communicate with STRANGERS and people we know

What are the key differences of how you talk to a stranger and how you talk to a
known person?

Absolute dead center first is you have PRACTICED all your life talking to people
that you know. SO you must practice practice practice talking to women you do
not know in order to achieve this same effect at internal levels.
The basic level use of assuming rapport is this. What do you usually do at a
verbal level with strangers you are not in rapport with?
You ask tons of questions about her and volunteer tons of information about
you. When instead with people you know already you discuss the environment,
the things around you or activity you are engaged in. You talk about happenings
or people you both know.
You can do the same with her in the form of celebrities, music, movies and TV
you both watch. Do not volunteer what you watch or listen to or have seen, ask
her what she watches listens to or has seen for a better conversation to erupt out
of these things that will lead to rapport being assumed.
It’s really as simple as that to assume there is a rapport and induce it. Verbal
methods of attraction and influence are VERY hit or miss. As again we just cant
read minds so wild assumption will be all that are being made of “the right thing
to say”.

pg 45 Gunwitch

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